Have you ever felt “stuck” in a life situation? Have you ever felt powerless to change your circumstances?
When we feel unable to change our lives, the words we use to describe our case often provide a clue for the way to resolve the situation. For example, feeling “stuck” actually describes the problem quite accurately. You see, stuck attention roots you to your circumstances. Keep your attention on your problem, and it fills your mind and thus, your life.
For example, if you feel stuck in a job, then your mind will get stuck on those things you hate about the job. What do you complain about to your friends? Where is your attention focused? On the problems—on what you don’t want.
A good friend will patiently listen to you bemoan your fate. A better friend will help you shift your attention on what you prefer to experience. What would your ideal job look like? How would it feel? You’ll find that when you answer these questions, your attention will drift back to the problem. That’s normal, especially when the problem is considered serious. When we judge problems as serious, we assign an inherent gravity to them, and this gravity pulls our attention. Getting unstuck requires mental energy in the same way that getting free of the earth’s gravity requires physical energy.
Mental energy is fueled by the desire for something different-—a new preference. When we create an image of a new preferred reality, then we can feel ourselves being drawn to it-—it fills us with energy! Our old situation feels less “sticky” because we are less encumbered by its gravity. We remember that we can always decide on a new course of action. Like a drop of water on a teflon pan we can dart in any direction we choose.
Today, you’re likely to have 10,000 thoughts; 95% of those are the same thoughts you had yesterday. In the 1950s, IBM’s corporate slogan was “Think!”. Apple Computer, in the ‘90s urged us to “Think Different.” I urge you to find a friend who would be willing to help you “think different.” Getting free of serious thoughts can be fun when we remember that levity is the opposite of gravity. I recommend the “Releasing Fixed Attention” exercise from the Avatar® Mini-Course #2 to help you achieve this freedom. (See AvatarEPC.com to download all seven free mini-courses.)
Tony Cecala, Ph.D.
About Tony Cecala
Tony is a business strategist. He publishes the Holistic Networker and produces the Wellness Expo. In his spare time he reads about technology and the mind.