By Valerie Grimes, CHt
What methods have your used to relieve emotional pain? I know in my own life I have tried them all. What I found to be most effective and lasting is forgiveness of others and self. However, this is usually the place one gets bogged down in the healing or recovery process.
We hear a lot about the benefits of forgiveness through DVDs, CDs, podcasts and books on the subject. But don’t those “forgiveness gurus” know how hard it is? Yes, but they also know it is possible, or they wouldn’t suggest it. Not forgiving creates resentment and holding resentments affect the body’s ability to thrive. And, if one desires to improve one’s chances of being healthy, then releasing this resentment can free the body from stress and give a sense of accomplishment, as feelings centered around an old experience begin to change. By letting the energy that was tied up in the resentment be redirected toward constructive decisions, one get closer to the kind of life one wants to live.
Effects of not forgiving
If you are experiencing regret, sadness, hurt, fear, guilt, blame, anger, resentment and sometimes even revenge, it is an indication of the need for forgiveness. If left alone, these feelings cause chemical reactions creating depression, physical ailments, chronic pain and suppression of the immune system. (For more on this, read: “Molecules of Emotion,” by Candace Pert). I have witnessed clients in various stages of cancer, all with the same common negative emotion – resentment. “The Course In Miracles” states, “All disease comes from a state of un-forgiveness.” Our lives just can’t flow freely when we hold onto resentment.
I can’t confront the person.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean the person has to confront the perpetrator; forgiveness exists in the heart of the forgiver.
Emmit Fox created a visualization that places the person you want to forgive on stage, receiving praise from the audience, seeing them happy and full of confidence and sureness. However one can only get to this point after anger and frustration have been released and that person feels safe enough to do so.
Is the Law of Attraction Working For You?
“Positive Self Talk” and “Affirmations” alone won’t work unless accompanied by emotions that match the beliefs that are already in the subconscious. Orison S. Marden, the father of the success movement, states, “Our destiny changes with our thought; we shall become what we wish to become, do what we wish to do, when our habitual thought corresponds with our desire.” Hypnosis for forgiveness work is a rapid method for matching thoughts to desires and desires to thoughts, so the Law of Attraction can work in a positive way.
I have found hypnosis as a tool for facilitating true healing by releasing buried emotions in my own life and in doing so I gained the freedom to experience the person I truly am.
By Valerie Grimes, CHt, hypnotist in practice since 2002. You can contact her at [email protected]
About Tony Cecala
Tony is a business strategist. He publishes the Holistic Networker and produces the Wellness Expo. In his spare time he reads about technology and the mind.